Once You Experience REAL

Hay Daizee Loves!

I am craving what is REAL. I am craving it because I know what it is, and I know how I feel when I have it.

SPIRITUALLY

I remember posting on IG one Christmas, “Happy Birthday to the most consistent man I know.” What we have with Jesus is the REALEST relationship we will ever experience. I once said on Snapchat, halfway in tears (I had been away from God for a minute), that once you EXPERIENCE REAL, you don’t even really want anything else. The world is not real. I have no peace when I am dealing with the world. I am always so unfulfilled when I am not rocking with Jesus the way I should be. The world just does not do for me the same way Jesus does. The world is not consistent with me like Jesus is. The world loves me one day and then hates me the next. Jesus loves me even when I am not acting right. And Jesus PROVED it all with His actions. He died for us, you know? The world doesn’t even care about us. When you are crying at night, the world does not come to see about you or help you get to sleep. Jesus does. Y ’all get what I am saying? Once you experience REAL life with Jesus, you won’t want the fake worldly life.  

I think a lot of the time we are okay dealing with the imitations the world has to offer us because we have never felt what is REAL. We have only felt fake that claims to be REAL. We are caught up with the world and how it treats people. How can you peep what is fake if you do not know what is real? Jesus exposes the fakeness of the world. In the same way, real relationships expose the fake ones.

FRIENDS

I did not see how fake some of my so-called friends were until God sent me friends that I felt like I did not deserve. I did not and do not have to do anything for them to love me. You will find that a lot of people have ill willed intentions behind befriending you. If you are not giving them what they are after… they disappear.  But with REAL friends, they do not need money, rides, homework assignments (GEEK SQUAD), access to your other friends, or access to your business to tell their other fake friends (separate blog post). They just need you for YOU, you know? Your personality, spirit and vibes.  All you have to do is be your genuine self to have them. That is how you know it is REAL. That is how you know it is from God. He only sends you the REAL DEAL. They care, and they are there even when they do not get anything in return. If they are only around when they need something… it is not real. If they start acting up when you getting blessings on blessings on blessings… it is not real. If they are acting up when you get a new boo… it is not real. If they are jealous and it is obvious… it is not real. If you feel for 5 seconds you cannot trust them… it is not real. You should be able to trust and have peace confiding in a FRIEND. You can just FEEL when people are genuinely about you. Once you have experienced a real friendship, you do not desire or have time for fake ones. There are just things you do not have to worry about when the vibes are REAL… when the love is REAL.

ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

Until I felt what it was really like for a young man to be about me, really care about me, and just be there for me… I never noticed how much another DID NOT and WAS NOT. What was being said did not matter because, we all know actions speak so much louder than words. If the words and actions do not line up… it is not real. Someone who is present, consistent, protective, involved in all things concerning you and honest from the BEGINNING… cares about you. If they are not around when it matters most… it is not REAL. If they know you are sick or going through it mentally/emotionally and they are not there to check on you and make things better… it is not REAL. If they dip when they peep you are not trying to sleep with them... it is not REAL. They only want the physical part of you and I mean… I guess that’s okay if that is all you want from them, but we are talking about what is REAL and relationships where emotions are not allowed or involved are not REAL. When someone you are attracted to wants your mind, heart, time, and everything that makes you, YOU… that is REAL (the physical is like icing on top of the cake but wait until marriage please). After years of dealing with fake love, when you have a real one, they’ll have you sitting there like… “Wait you really want to be around? Oh wow, you care forreal. You are busy, but you are going to make time for me? You are not going to use how busy you are as an excuse? STOPPPPP! You crave my presence like that bae? You called because you wanted to hear my voice? ERMAHHGAHHH! You are going to travel to come see me? You want to meet my family and friends? You were praying for me? AHHH!” Once you have someone whose love for you is real, you will not be worried about or wanting someone whose love for you is CLEARLY fake.

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REAL is REAL from the beginning. Real is not overly complicated. REAL will not SWITCH UP on you the way fake friends and lovers do. Real does not give off SHADY vibes. REAL comes with peace and is fulfilling. REAL is ALWAYS there… no matter the situation or circumstances. REAL still loves you even if you are acting up.

Disclaimer: People will continuously act up and think you are supposed to stick around like JESUS. That is not your role. You can continue to love them and stuff FROM A DISTANCE. Can’t be out here being misused and abused all for the sake of being REAL… but that sounds like a separate blog post. So, there will be more to come concerning being real, whether it is with yourself or others.

I pray we all continue to have REAL encounters with Jesus so that we will crave less and less of the fake stuff. I pray we can recognize what is indeed fake even when it is in our face screaming that it is REAL. I pray we are all able to experience the REAL DEAL friends… and more than friends… that God will place in our lives (even if only for a season). Life is too short and too real. Focus on our real savior and the real people in your life. I promise when you do, you won’t want anything else.

Love, ALWAYS.

Megan